The husband is to love and lead. The wife is to love and follow.
If the wife does not love and follow, the husband is to continue to love and lead.
If the husband does not love and lead, the wife is to continue to love and follow.
Marriage teaches us to practice grace, so that we can better understand his Grace toward his bride, the Church. For God continues to love and lead his Church even when we do not love and follow our Lord.
God bless, Bob.