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Marriage Tips, Learnings, and Quotes

Below is a full list of marriage tips I have picked up over the last few years. The sources are as follows:

1  My own learnings regarding marriage and keeping the relationship romantic and giving.
2  Love and Respect Marriage Seminar notes.
3  Biblical quotes related to marriage.
4  Various non-Biblical quotes regarding love in general.
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Bob’s Learnings about marriage and keeping the relationship romantic and giving.

Marriage is to…..

Serve
Honor
Forgive
Sacrifice
Give time
Be gentle
Be patient
Be humble
Be faithful
Compromise
Cherish more
Give Freedom
Learn Romance
Stay Connected
Unconditional love
Unconditional respect
Give Encouragement
Turn the other cheek
Let God do the discipline
Put yourself in their shoes
Express your hurt as feelings
Have pity not bitterness for sin
Return a blessing for their cursing
Overcome an offense with an act of kindness.

Bob’s Stoke the flame of love ideas.

1. Are you taking notes of their interests, likes, and dislikes?

2. Do you have a desire to woo him/ her?

3. Remind him/her of a romantic moment lately?

4. Did you sing him/her a song today?

5. Prepare a poem this week?

6. Show them a photo you like of them with a short note saying why?

7. Arouse their imagination by writing a short getaway story filled with details that only you know they would enjoy.

8. Did you say some encouragement today?

9. How can you please them today to make them smile?

10. How can you Sacrifice something you want today to ensure they get what they want because you want to see them happy?

11. Have you showed them honor and respect today?

12. Have you told them the L word today ?

13. Show any affection lately?

14. Send them a special song lyric?

15. Be interested in what they are saying?

16. Have you just talked today?

17. Are you treating him/her each day like you are still dating?

18. Respect their personal space? You can’t have their attention all the time, but you should keep trying to get it.

19. You had to court them to win their heart, so don’t you think you have to court them to keep their heart?

20. Is chivalry dead, open the door and pull out the chair?

21. Overcome evil with good lately?

22. Return a blessing for their cursing today?

23. Have you affirmed them in a good thing they have done?

24. Are you stoking and tending to the fire of the relationship ?

25. Isn’t he/she beautiful? When is the last time you told them?

26. Are you continually stoking the fire with your children – your spouse is watching?

27. Do you like when they smile? Then send a joke.

28. Have you showed appreciation for a character quality that they recently displayed?

29. Have you given them thanks for a nice thing they recently did?

30. Have you complimented them on a beautiful physical trait the have ?

31. Have you bought him/her a little gift to show you care?

32. Can you do one of their chores today to show you care?

33. When is the last time you took a walk together?

34. Have you held his/her hand today?

35. Hug her/him lately?

36. Candle light dinner anyone?

37. Light a candle before bed?

38. Plan a getaway for just the two of you?

39. Prepare a Picnic this weekend?

40. Let’s go fly a kite ?

41. Snuggle while watching a movie?

42. Rub their back today?

43. Cook them a meal lately?

44. Organize a babysitter and take him/her out?

45. Bring them a flower?

46. Send them a funny video to make them smile?

47. Showing sympathy and empathy instead of anger?

48. Do you kiss and embrace when you leave and/or when you come home?

49. Do you pray together at meals and / or before bed ?

50. Write their name vertically. Then with each letter of their name start another word horizontally that describes something about them.

51. Have you taken her out dancing lately? Even if it’s in the living room or the park.

52. Bring him/her a Starbucks today?

53. Bring him /her their favorite candy or snack today?

54. Take them out for dinner if they are tired?

55. Read to him / her stories when together – funny books, memoirs, short stories, missionary stories, Bible passage, etc.

56. Take them on a short camping excursion?

57. Slowly walk some nature trails together.

58. Take them out on a paddle boat or other two person boat?

59. Go out with a group of friends ?

60. Campfire and smores with her/him.

61. How about Stargazing together?

62. A fun painting project together where you can talk.

63. Listen to music together?

64. Play music or sing together?

65. Go to a concert they would like?

66. Couples skate?

Roller or ice skating can be romantic or a fun family event.

67. Did you hold hands today?

68. Learn how to dance together?

69. Draw her a picture?

70. Send her a funny picture that you can create on a phone app.

71. Go to the grocery store together and make it fun?

72. Play a game together?

73. Can you really go wrong by sending her a BG’s love song link? I don’t think so.

74. Send or give them an encouraging Bible verse?

75. Send them a link to one of those sappy love songs on YouTube?

76. Send them a list of the characteristics that you love about them?

77. Remind your spouse how much THEY love you.

78. Ask them some questions from one of those books of questions to ask on a date.

79. Share some desert or special candy?

80. Express to them that you praise God for the good you see in them.

81. Have you told them how proud you are of them for facing a recent difficulty in their life or a good thing they did?

82. What makes them feel loved? Have you done that today?

83 Could you put a flower on her pillow or desk to find?

84. Be sure to reciprocate any kind, caring, or loving action that he / she does for you as soon as possible.

85. Play some music he/she would like in the house or in the car.

86. Draw a picture of her and give it to her / him.

87. Spend a few hours together at a flower garden.

88. Look at old pictures of her/him together.

89. Go someplace that requires you to dress up really nice.

90. Take the day off and spend it together for your anniversary and each other’s birthdays.

91. Send a cell phone sticker to let them know you are thinking of them.

92. Make the bed and put a short love note on his/her pillow.

93. Going out on the town? Get a wrist corsage made with her favorite color flowers.

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Love and Respect Seminar Notes

Women feel loved when…

1. Hold her hand

2. Hugs

3. Affectionate without sex

4. Openness

5. Tell her about your day

6. Talk without harshness or cell phones or other distractions.

7. Listen to her

8. Repeat back what she says

9. Appreciate her contribution to the family.

10. Say you are sorry. Ask, will you forgive me. This is a turn on for a woman.

11. Keep the relationship up to date. Resolve issues when you see her spirit deflate and follow number 10 above.

12. Pray together after a hurtful time.

13. Be loyal by not looking at other women. Leave on your wedding ring.

14. Speak positive about her around others.

15. Don’t use the D word as a threat.

16. Esteem her in front of others.

17. Praise her for what she does.

18. Value her opinion in the gray areas.

19. Be tactful when you disagree with her idea by sincerely saying you are thankful, thinking about her ideas, and that you value her opinion.

Men feel respect when you…

1. Tell him thank you for going to work every day.

2. Cheer his success in work and sports.

3. Listen to his dreams -even if he doesn’t intend to do them.

4. Look up to him for his desire to provide, protect, and die for you.

5. Tell him he is strong when you squeeze his muscles 🙂

6. Honor him in front of others.

7. Thank him for his advice.

8. Applaud him when he fixes things.

9. Tell him you just need him to listen and not to fix.

10. Tell him that not only do you love him but you also like him.

11. Do recreational things together without always talking about the children and sometimes without talking at all.

12. Allow him to be alone sometimes.

13. Initiate sex with him.

14. Respond more often to sex. How can you expect him to always have eyes for you when you continually deny him sex nor make an effort to look good for him. What if your husband didn’t talk to you for days. That’s how he feels without sex for days.

15. Let him confess his sexual temptations without shame.

Wouldn’t you want your daughter to be treated like this by her husband, and wouldn’t you want your son to be treated like this by his wife. Of course, then why not treat your own spouse this way.

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Bible Quotes related to Marriage

Genesis 2

18 The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a companion for him who corresponds to him.”

19 The LORD God formed out of the ground every living animal of the field and every bird of the air. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them, and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name.

20 So the man named all the animals, the birds of the air, and the living creatures of the field, but for Adam no companion who corresponded to him was found.

21 So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep, and while he was asleep, he took part of the man’s side and closed up the place with flesh.

22 Then the LORD God made a woman from the part he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.

23 Then the man said, “This one at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; this one will be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.”

24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and unites with his wife, and they become a new family.

25 The man and his wife were both naked, but they were not ashamed.

Proverbs 12:4 (NET)

A noble wife is the crown of her husband, but the wife who acts shamefully is like rottenness in his bones.

Proverbs 18:22 (NET)

The one who finds a wife finds what is enjoyable, and receives a pleasurable gift from the LORD.

Proverbs 19:14 (NET)

A house and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the LORD.

Proverbs 21:9 (NET)

It is better to live on a corner of the housetop than in a house in company with a quarrelsome wife.

Proverbs 27:15 (NET)

A continual dripping on a rainy day and a contentious wife are alike.

Proverbs 31:10 (NET)

Who can find a wife of noble character? For her value is far more than rubies.

Ecclesiastes 9:9 (NET)

Enjoy life with your beloved wife during all the days of your fleeting life that God has given you on earth during all your fleeting days; for that is your reward in life and in your burdensome work on earth.

Mathew 19

3 Then some Pharisees came to him in order to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful to divorce a wife for any cause?”

4 He answered, “Have you not read that from the beginning the Creator made them male and female,

5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and will be united with his wife, and the two will become one flesh’?

6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

7 They said to him, “Why then did Moses command us to give a certificate of dismissal and to divorce her?”

8 Jesus said to them, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because of your hard hearts, but from the beginning it was not this way.

9 Now I say to you that whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another commits adultery.”

10 The disciples said to him, “If this is the case of a husband with a wife, it is better not to marry!”

11 He said to them, “Not everyone can accept this statement, except those to whom it has been given.

12 For there are some eunuchs who were that way from birth, and some who were made eunuchs by others, and some who became eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. The one who is able to accept this should accept it.”

1 Corinthians 7

1 Now with regard to the issues you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.”

2 But because of immoralities, each man should have relations with his own wife and each woman with her own husband.

3 A husband should give to his wife her sexual rights, and likewise a wife to her husband.

4 It is not the wife who has the rights to her own body, but the husband. In the same way, it is not the husband who has the rights to his own body, but the wife.

5 Do not deprive each other, except by mutual agreement for a specified time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then resume your relationship, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

6 I say this as a concession, not as a command.

7 I wish that everyone was as I am. But each has his own gift from God, one this way, another that.

8 To the unmarried and widows I say that it is best for them to remain as I am.

9 But if they do not have self-control, let them get married. For it is better to marry than to burn with sexual desire.

10 To the married I give this command – not I, but the Lord – a wife should not divorce a husband

11 (but if she does, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband), and a husband should not divorce his wife.

12 To the rest I say – I, not the Lord – if a brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is happy to live with him, he should not divorce her.

13 And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is happy to live with her, she should not divorce him.

14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified because of the wife, and the unbelieving wife because of her husband. Otherwise your children are unclean, but now they are holy.

15 But if the unbeliever wants a divorce, let it take place. In these circumstances the brother or sister is not bound. God has called you in peace.

16 For how do you know, wife, whether you will bring your husband to salvation? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will bring your wife to salvation?

17 Nevertheless, as the Lord has assigned to each one, as God has called each person, so must he live. I give this sort of direction in all the churches.

Ephesians 5

22 Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord,

23 because the husband is the head of the wife as also Christ is the head of the church – he himself being the savior of the body.

24 But as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

25 Husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave himself for her

26 to sanctify her by cleansing her with the washing of the water by the word,

27 so that he may present the church to himself as glorious – not having a stain or wrinkle, or any such blemish, but holy and blameless.

28 In the same way husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.

29 For no one has ever hated his own body but he feeds it and takes care of it, just as Christ also does the church,

30 for we are members of his body.

31 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and will be joined to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.

32 This mystery is great – but I am actually speaking with reference to Christ and the church.

33 Nevertheless, each one of you must also love his own wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Colossians 3

18 Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.

19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be embittered against them.

Titus 2

3 Older women likewise are to exhibit behavior fitting for those who are holy, not slandering, not slaves to excessive drinking, but teaching what is good.

4 In this way they will train the younger women to love their husbands, to love their children,

5 to be self-controlled, pure, fulfilling their duties at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the message of God may not be discredited.

1 Peter 3

1 In the same way, wives, be subject to your own husbands. Then, even if some are disobedient to the word, they will be won over without a word by the way you live,

2 when they see your pure and reverent conduct.

3 Let your beauty not be external – the braiding of hair and wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes –

4 but the inner person of the heart, the lasting beauty of a gentle and tranquil spirit, which is precious in God’s sight.

5 For in the same way the holy women who hoped in God long ago adorned themselves by being subject to their husbands,

6 like Sarah who obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. You become her children when you do what is good and have no fear in doing so.

7 Husbands, in the same way, treat your wives with consideration as the weaker partners and show them honor as fellow heirs of the grace of life. In this way nothing will hinder your prayers.

8 Finally, all of you be harmonious, sympathetic, affectionate, compassionate, and humble.

9 Do not return evil for evil or insult for insult, but instead bless others because you were called to inherit a blessing.

10 For the one who wants to love life and see good days must keep his tongue from evil and his lips from uttering deceit.

11 And he must turn away from evil and do good; he must seek peace and pursue it.

12 For the eyes of the Lord are upon the righteous and his ears are open to their prayer. But the Lord’s face is against those who do evil.

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Non-Biblical quotes about Love

To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness. ~Robert Brault

The art of love… is largely the art of persistence. ~Albert Ellis

Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence. ~Erich Fromm

There is no surprise more magical than the surprise of being loved. It is God’s finger on man’s shoulder. ~Charles Morgan

Without love, what are we worth? Eighty-nine cents! Eighty-nine cents worth of chemicals walking around lonely. ~Laurence Marks, M*A*S*H, “Love Story,” original air date 7 January 1973, spoken by the character Hawkeye

Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own. ~Robert Heinlein

The ultimate test of a relationship is to disagree but to hold hands. ~Quoted by Alexandra Penney in Self

Love is, above all, the gift of oneself. ~Jean Anouilh

Love doesn’t sit there like a stone, it has to be made, like bread; remade all of the time, made new. ~Ursula K. Le Guin

Take away love and our earth is a tomb. ~Robert Browning

A joyful heart is the inevitable result of a heart burning with love. ~Mother Teresa

I learned the real meaning of love. Love is absolute loyalty. People fade, looks fade, but loyalty never fades. You can depend so much on certain people, you can set your watch by them. And that’s love, even if it doesn’t seem very exciting. ~Sylvester Stallone

Love is not about grand intentions. It is about small attentions. ~Robert Brault, rbrault.blogspot.com

Love is not a matter of what happens in life. It’s a matter of what’s happening in your heart. ~Ken Keyes

Love is what makes two people sit in the middle of a bench when there is plenty of room at both ends. ~Author Unknown

Love is giving someone the ability to destroy you — but trusting them not to. ~Author unknown

Love is given to us as a time, but to keep it always, we must make it a place. ~Robert Brault

Quotes were chosen from …http://quotegarden.com/love.html

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